Yes, developers need to respect users too. But that should be between the developers and the user. If a user asks me to add Apple Id as an option in an app I make, that is something that I would seriously consider as I care about my users. Why should a developer care about something no user has requested but Apple is forcing them to use?
Apple could be considered a genuine neutral arbitrator if it didn't take money from both the developers and its users. What it has done instead is to force itself between the user and the developer, and exploiting both in the name of the users (developers lose money to Apple's extortion, and the money it extorts from the developers is ultimately passed to the user, and thus they end up exploited too).
The bizarre thing is the ignorance here that this whole thing is a matter of choice! I am glad that there are developers who recognize that they do not have to accept unfair, and even unethical, practices from corporates. And are willing to speak about it and fight it.
Like minded developers are not just fighting Apple, but the whole attempt by "big tech" to move to the business model of exploiting developers by controlling distribution of softwares, and dictating terms that favour them. This ends up harming both developers, as they earn less, and users, as ultimately it the user who ends up paying the share of profits that Apple (and others) extort from the developers.
It doesn't work like that. Users can't ask about options they don't know about.
And even if they do, too many developers couldn't give two shits. Great example is how users overwhelmingly opt-out of tracking when the OS warns them about it (because "developers thinking about users" never even considered not tracking)
Apple could be considered a genuine neutral arbitrator if it didn't take money from both the developers and its users. What it has done instead is to force itself between the user and the developer, and exploiting both in the name of the users (developers lose money to Apple's extortion, and the money it extorts from the developers is ultimately passed to the user, and thus they end up exploited too).