What the other replies said. But with a couple of clarifications:

You should engage in an activity that you enjoy for its own sake. Don't take up dance class, for instance, if you aren't actually interested in learning to dance.

Don't "go looking for women". That is, don't try to be a pickup artist. Make an effort to be generally social, but don't focus just on the ladies. Be generally social. Talk to the men as well as the women.

I find this to be bad advice. People already do the activities they enjoy and don’t do the activities that don’t enjoy.

Clearly the activities they enjoy do not involve meeting women. For me, this translates to weight lifting (few women lift; if there are women, there is a trope for creepy gym guy and there isn’t much socialization outside of the men’s locker room) or coding (another solo experience).

Try new things. Try things that are social and are uncomfortable for introverts. It’s the only way you can find the results you want.

I think the trick is really that you need to A) notice if you are a person who engages in activities dominated by your own gender or solo activities, B) figure out how to broaden your horizons without whiteknucking it.

I want to stress just how difficult both of these things can be -- especially the second part. It's truly a journey where you end up changing your entire mindset to become a person who is going to make a good partner for another human being. You must not feel pressured to do it, or resentful that you are doing it. You must choose wholeheartedly to do it. It's going to feel awkward and strange along the way.

My comment doesn't mean "don't try new things" at all. Absolutely try them and see if you like them or not. What I'm saying is that whatever things you're doing, you shouldn't be doing just to meet women.

Women can tell when guys are doing that, and it's generally off-putting.

If you don’t try things that you don’t already do then how will you know whether you enjoy them? Most people who don’t enjoy dancing don’t enjoy because they feel uncomfortable at such a low skill level. Learn to dance and then you can enjoy it. Like most things, if you’re good at it then you enjoy it. Both can cause the other.

And there’s tons of women at dance classes.

Same way you meet any type of human. Participate in activities where socialization is a part of the activity, either intentionally or not; and actively socialize when the opportunity presents itself.

As a basic filter for activities, look for things where many people participate in physical proximity, the activity has periods of intense focus and then lulls, and without a taboo on talking. It helps if the activity attracts the type of people you want to meet, and it also interests you.

Don't bring a phone or other distraction for the periods of non-focus, use that time to probe for socialization.

For many men who frequent HN "Participate in activities where socialization is part of the activity" without further qualification would mean many activities where few to no single heterosexual women are present.

If you are male, I have a 100% guaranteed method.

First, dress like Harry Styles. Then, go to a Harry Styles concert, where the gender ratio is guaranteed to be in your favor. Then say "hey what's your name?" to any given girl/woman. The girl woman will inevitably interrogate you, it doesn't matter what the question is, the answer is "I admire Harry's fashion sense, i'm a bit obsessed, are you into fashion?"

Boom, match made.

The issue I used to have (and still have) is a yearning for the world to be different and for the female sex to be not so mid.

A huge percent of the women you are interested in have been obsessed with that guy for the last 10 years or more (specifically 2011 when "That's What Makes You Beautiful" song was released) If you can drug or drink yourself into becomig mid, you have nailed the secret strategy that all the guys with cute girls have achieved.

This is absurd and patronizing.

Also, activities that repeat so you get more chances to interact with the same people.

Any place that facilitates meeting people in general and that attracts a high enough woman/man ratio.

Where would you go to make friends of either sex? That's a good starting place.

Schools

Hospitals

Grocery stores

That's all I got.

Thier phone.

co-ed sports leagues

Bar, tinder, churches, open festivals, etc.

But the most important: Through friends. Trying to make regular friends and expanding your social circle increases the chances of being invited to private gatherings, where you can meet more people and so on.

While I know others for whom church have worked, I often feel that people, especially myself, are not who they really are at church, only showing the good parts of themselves while hiding their unpopular quirks (i.e. the warts and all). This prevents me from being more interested in people I meet at church.

You could view such people as a puzzle box. You could be a detective and try to suss out what's underneath their public mask.

That process is, in my opinion, the most enjoyable part of any new friendship anyway.

Don't try tinder if you're average or below looking.

No bars unless you like alco addicted girls.

Rough alco addicted girls with arm tattoos. This is highly subjective of course but I agree, bars are old school.

Good for practicing human interactions though

You'll get the most mileage out of anything centered around a personal goal or interest -- the more personal and genuine and less superficial the goal or interest is, the better. As an example, schools (as a student or postgrad) and religious groups (if you're religious) are very good if you're genuine in your involvement.

Also, social events connected in some way to people you already know (both family and friends) provide an incredibly high degree of optionality in all sorts of ways, including potential relationships.

Go to dance class.

Either by mastering small talk, or by going to various activities. From cooking lessons, to dancing lessons and everything in between.

#1 priority is optimizing the city you live in. What you’re looking for:

- population density: the more opportunities to connect with someone, the better. A densely packed city selects (or transforms others into) people who are open to meeting others. This also makes it the natural default to be within talking distance of someone; consider the opposite: you’re sitting in a coffee shop with enough square feet to comfortably fit 30 people, but there’s only you and 3 other people there — you’d have to conspicuously walk 15+ paces over to say hello to someone you’re interested in.

- transience: a city that is full of people who must be outgoing in order to not be alone means that you in turn will fit right in by being similarly outgoing and social. You’re looking for somewhere that people often immigrate to, or has a job market that brings people in from elsewhere, etc. You’ll be able to go out solo, make some friends along the way, and you just doing your thing will eventually attract the attention of someone in the room.

- walking-friendly: the more time you’re sitting in a car, the less time you’re surrounded by people. If you have someone giving you eyes while your walking down the sidewalk, that’s a perfect opportunity for a spontaneous date — but that will only happen if, you know, there are actually people walking around outside.

- social events: are there parks? Flea markets? Food trucks? Outside movie screenings or live performances? Food festivals? Meetups catering to your interests? Anything that gets people out and bumping into each other?

I’ve had fantastic long term relationships with people that I met in line at the airport, or at the coffee shop, and other miscellaneous random encounters. But your choice of city and its culture will determine the probability that you’ll hit off with someone that you randomly meet, and the odds that you’ll randomly bump into anyone at all in the first place.

I’m presently living in Dallas, Texas again (where I was born and raised), after having lived in DC and NY. Would not recommend anything similar: majority of people here have friend groups from their childhood and aren’t really looking to meet new people; coffee shops and other establishments are incredibly spacious (because land is cheap and people here generally want space from others, rather than e.g. communal bench seating); there aren’t many outdoors social events; you have to drive to go anywhere; etc. Only reason I moved back was due to some health stuff that I have since gotten over .

I suppose you could do online dating, but I’m not really a fan. If you have dozens of people lining up for a date with you, I feel that it screws up your perspective at the beginning, as you break prospects down into a matrix of pros and cons and try to prioritize who you go on a date with next — sucks the magic out of meeting someone. Vs bumping into someone, make eye contact briefly, look away for a moment, and then find that you both did a double take at the exact same time: there’s just you and that other person caught up in the chemistry of the moment.