Yeah, but teenagers will intrinsically try and rebel against what is "good"; what I think this article drives at, in simpler terms, is that just telling someone they should or shouldn't do this or that isn't enough. Teenagers will resist this "just so" authority, ask "why though?", but even if a complete answer is given they will have to find out for themselves.
"Why should I go to bed at this time?" they will ask. Then they try staying up all night and realize they're useless the next day.
"Why shouldn't I drink?" they ask, then drink a lot and forget how they got home, but won't forget how sick they are the next day.
And this isn't a one off thing, many people continue this thing until well in their twenties; some never learn. But those that do and have kids of their own will continue the cycle; don't do this, do do that, because I found out the hard way that if you don't do as I'm trying to tell you, bad things will happen and your life may be worse off. In theory.
(many caveats there, I am not a psychologist, I'm just a 30 some year old who considered himself a good kid but ended up pretty under-matured with a load of relationship problems to show for it. And now a teenager in my house too, who is a lot more rebellious, lol)
Is it intrinsic, or is a reaction to an oversold notion of "good"? I didn't rebel until I realized how much of a lie DARE was. I'm now 36 and I still think that most of the crimes I committed as a teen were justified (except for the handful that weren't, those keep me up at night).
"Why should I go to bed at this time?" they will ask. Then they try staying up all night and realize they're useless the next day.
"Why shouldn't I drink?" they ask, then drink a lot and forget how they got home, but won't forget how sick they are the next day.
And this isn't a one off thing, many people continue this thing until well in their twenties; some never learn. But those that do and have kids of their own will continue the cycle; don't do this, do do that, because I found out the hard way that if you don't do as I'm trying to tell you, bad things will happen and your life may be worse off. In theory.
(many caveats there, I am not a psychologist, I'm just a 30 some year old who considered himself a good kid but ended up pretty under-matured with a load of relationship problems to show for it. And now a teenager in my house too, who is a lot more rebellious, lol)