You can try to self-host. Neither Synapse nor Dendrite is in a good state for running a server. I tried Dendrite for a while and it was always playing catchup to Synapse, despite being the supposed successor, and is now not even under development? I can't even tell what's going on over there.
Anyway, my main experience of Matrix is "failed to decrypt message". It's... not great. I wish it were better.
You did it wrong. The correct approach is to flip a coin and let it decide between tuwunel and continuwuity, then self hold that until it dies along with its database format
Anyway, my main experience of Matrix is "failed to decrypt message". It's... not great. I wish it were better.